New beginnings

I have decided, as of last night, that it's important to me (and secretly I think to Andrew as well) to have a good relationship with his parents and his grandparents and aunts/uncles (his mom's side). We get along with the Jansen side so perfectly, now, changes have to be made on my part. It starts with me. Even though I know I haven't done anything other than continued in growing as a couple with Andrew, and went along with making our own decisions. After the latest argument, I decided that I felt bad for her, and I would forgive her, move on, and include her in the things we want her to be included in, and not include her in the things she doesn't need to be, but thinks she does.

Things I'm changing:

1) added her on facebook, playing farmville with her and commenting on a picture here and there.

2.) added her entire family on facebook so they can be updated on silly Haydenisms and see pictures of him that I put up almost daily.

3.) I won't be posting any of my frustrations with her/her family on facebook anymore.

4.) Calling/emailing/going to visit her sister and her mom and dad (grammie & grandpa Henry) more often this year. Sending random cards and pictures in the mail to make them feel like a part of his life.

5.) Trying not to get offended by her random opinions/input on things we do.

6.) Making it a point to bring Hayden over once a week so they can have Grammie/Grandpa time.

I'm hoping it will go smoothly. It's going to take a lot of tongue biting/self control/relaxation techniques to get along with her, but I'm thinking positive, and I'm going to take one day at a time, and say that it's being going great since Jan 1st!